He was a dynamic missionary married to a truly beautiful woman – temperature-inducing, some might say.
And he was definitely “on fire” . . . but not for her.
He had “higher” spiritual priorities. Flying around in a hotshot bush plane, spreading the Gospel with unmatched zeal, he was the envy of many others with his engaging personality and winning ways.
Then I met his wife. What was wrong with her?
Never smiling, her depressed countenance was a mystery. He seemed like a great guy. Why wasn’t she radiant, fulfilled, and happy?
Sometimes we men are so busy loving God, we’re walking in sin.
But, shouldn’t we be zealous for winning the lost, foreign missions, for youth work, or for the church’s inner-city ministry or . . . ?
No, we shouldn’t . . . not if our zeal for God gets in the way of obedience to what He told us to do.
If I’m the cause of a lack of radiance in my wife, I’m walking in disobedience to God. Papering over that sin with spiritual-sounding exploits might fool the guy in the next aisle on Sunday morning but it won’t impress God, or our wives.
When it comes to marriage, it takes two – both parties are responsible. Yet, when it comes to the contented, radiant, fulfilled life of your own wife, ask yourself a question:
Is my wife the most cherished, fulfilled, loved woman I know?
Better yet, what would your wife honestly say if she was asked, “Do you feel cherished by your husband?”
From a distance, the super-missionary looked like the apostle Paul – bold, zealous, caring, sold out for the Gospel. But his wife was downcast, dull of spirit, lacking joy.
Misplaced zeal for God had relegated her to a distant secondary status. We can be too spiritual, sometimes. There’s nothing godly or biblical about neglecting the needs and heart of our wife and calling it ‘putting God in 1st place in our lives.’
When it comes to your woman, He’s been pretty specific. Your wife is supposed to hold the same place in your heart as the Bride of Christ, the Church, holds in Jesus Christ’s: Husbands love your wives just like Christ loved the Church – Ephesians 5:25
Oh, yeah, that. We’ve heard it so many times it induces barely a yawn.
But, if my wife’s lack of radiance is due to not being cherished, it’s not just too bad for her, it’s wrong and, I need to change. A Church full of men who love God is a Church full of cherished wives.
If anyone asks your wife, “Are you a cherished woman?” do your part to make sure she can respond with abandon: Absolutely, I wish everyone could enjoy being loved as I am loved!
Chances are, if your wife is cherished, it wouldn’t occur to anyone to ask the question because a cherished woman is as eye-catching as a huge star burning brightly in the night sky.
What Man Doesn’t Want That?
God told us men to get to it.
So let’s get busy!
Is your wife a cherished woman? What are some ways you are loving your wife today?