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The Power of Repetition in Parenting

The Power of Repetition in ParentingPublic speaking is hard, but it’s not as hard as parenting. Or rocket science. I mean, I’m not a brain surgeon, but it seems like it’s not rocket science that public speaking isn’t as hard as parenting.

I haven’t done a lot of public speaking, but when I do, I make great success of forgetting most of what I learned in Speech class. But one thing I have not forgotten is this oft-repeated, Speech class standard:

Tell them what you’re going to tell them.
Tell them.
Tell them what you told them.

This is sound, I believe. It’s also a pretty solid parenting advice.

One thing that gives kids freedom is borders. This far, and no further. What that’s about is clarity. And clarity is a gift. It’s a gift that keeps on giving and keeps on needing to be repeated.

The Power of Repetition in Parenting

Why is repetition such a gift? Because we are the kinds of creatures who learn through ritual, practice –by what we hear and do over and over.

How were the children of Israel instructed to train their own children in turn? Repetition.

“When you rise up…”

It’s also the same way we internalize truth. Christian heritage is rich on this score. One beauty of the liturgical form of worship is the artful repetition of words and actions that place us in a story.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.” –Aristotle

I know explanations can become wearisome, and kids, like adults, are served by mystery, by embodied worship, and ritual. But I believe it serves kids to tell them what you’re going to tell them; tell them; then tell them what you told them.

It feels tedious, I know. But love bears repeating.

Peace to you, S.D. Smith

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About S.D. Smith

S.D. Smith lives with his wife and four kids in West Virginia, because it would be weird to live with someone else’s wife and four kids in West Virginia, or anywhere else, right? Sam is passionate about fostering holy imagination in children, about anticipating the coming Kingdom in family, community, and church life. His collaborative website, Story Warren, is an artful ally to parents who are eager to foster holy imagination at home. Sam is a soccer dad, defying the critics who insist it’s “Communist Kickball.” While not being a Communist, he enjoys connecting with his kids over the Bible, literature, music, free-market soccer, and that noise where you put your hand under your armpit and flap it like a chicken. His beautiful wife, Gina, is the heroic heart of their home and is spectacularly tolerant of soccer and strange, guffaw-inducing noises.

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  1. Justin Blaney says

    November 12, 2013 at 8:21 pm

    thanks for the link back!

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