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Family Fatherhood

Words Matter

Words matter.  One of the greatest gifts you can give your family is the gift of your words.

For most men, words don’t come easy.

We’ve all heard or read the statistics; women use more words than men.  Men are more than comfortable watching a game, sitting shoulder to shoulder, grunting, cheering, and occasionally offering a fist-bump.  Not exactly meaningful or sophisticated, but we still call it communication.

Words matter.

One of the things we learn at the very beginning of the Bible is that God speaks.  He not only uses words, he is the author of words.  Unlike us, in our fallen and sinful state, when God speaks, he does so in a truly creative, powerful, instructive, and redemptive way.

In Genesis chapter 1, we see the phrase “And God said,” nine times. God doesn’t just speak at his creation; he speaks into and over his creation.

Light bursts forth from darkness.

Beauty springs up out of the chaos.

Order emerges from disorder.

Out of the nothingness, God’s words create life.

But as we read on in the biblical narrative (Genesis 3), we learn that God is not the only one who speaks.  There is what Paul Tripp calls a “war of words” going on in the Garden.  Satan uses words too.  But unlike God, his words bring death, pain, deception, separation, and ultimately the loss of Paradise.

How true it is that “the tongue can bring death or life” (Proverbs 18:21). I have sinned with my words, but I’ve also sinned by withholding my words. Sometimes it’s not what we say, but rather what we don’t say.  Feelings of appreciation, approval, and encouragement can be left unspoken.

So how do you use your words? As a husband and father, do your words matter?

Because we are image-bearers of God, one of the ways we glorify God is in our speech.  We reflect his image by the use of our words. In Jesus, God speaks over us as our Father.  He calls to us, and speaks over us as his children – adopted, accepted, treasured, loved, no longer sinners, but saints, citizens of heaven, and the list goes on. God does not just speak at us; he speaks over us.

Words matter.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your children (and family) is the gift of your words.  By God’s grace, be a man, husband, and father who doesn’t just speak to your family, but speaks over them. May the words that your Father speaks over you, be words you speak to and over your family – words of life, joy, approval, hope, wisdom, and encouragement.

Blessings,

Patrick Schwenk

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About Patrick Schwenk

Patrick Schwenk is a father, husband, pastor, and author of The Dig for Kids and The Warrior Weekend. Patrick and his wife Ruth are the founders of For the Family. They met while attending the Moody Bible Institute in Chicago, IL, have been married for sixteen years and currently have four children ages five to thirteen. They love serving in ministry, spending time together as a family, reading, drinking lots of coffee, and resting in God’s grace.

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Comments

  1. S.D. Smith says

    December 19, 2013 at 2:15 am

    Great one, Pat. I’ve been thinking about this so much lately. Well said. Powerful.

    • Pat Schwenk says

      December 19, 2013 at 12:13 pm

      Thank you!

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