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4 Scriptures to Combat a Strained Marriage

Are you feeling a strain in your marriage? In the midst of defending, arguments and disagreement, possibly one of the most important things you can do is combat difficulty with the Scriptures and with Prayer. We've compiled a list of verses to encourage your heart and pray before the feet the Jesus.

Have you ever felt a strain in your marriage? You know, when life’s circumstances are pulling at you from every angle and you are not valuing yourself, your spouse, nor your marriage covenant the way God intended? Well we have had many seasons of strain and over time God has shown us key verses in His Word that have helped us combat a strain in our marriage.

The beautiful thing about living immersed in the words of a Holy God is that we are able to hear directly from Him and gain the wisdom, encouragement, and strength we need for daily living and beyond. And in many, many situations over the last 15+ years of our marriage, we have found that the Bible has given us what we’ve needed during times our marriage has felt the strain of being engulfed in the everyday battle of life. And this, dear friends is of utmost importance to continually fulfill our marriage vows to one another.

Below we are sharing 4 Scriptures that have helped us combat a strained marriage. We are certain that these Bible verses will help carry your marriage towards Jesus when times get hard. All you have to do is have the faith to take God at His Word – and watch Him do miraculous things between you and your spouse! If you are willing, there is a way.

4 Scriptures to Combat a Strained Marriage

Philippians 2:3-4 KJV:

Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

This verse is of vital essence in every marriage because it helps keep us level headed and stops us from playing the blame-game. This verse gives us the power to and insight to understand that marriage isn’t all about us. It gives us the ability to realize how much we need Christ to be at the center of our marriage as we seek to honor our spouse above ourselves – and anyone who has been married for at least 24-hours already knows that this is no easy feat.

Ephesians 4:32 KJV:

32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Such a tender reminder of the sweet love that Christ has for us and how that sweet, tender love can be shared between husband and wife. We have found this scripture to be medicine to our wounded souls in times of despair and are confident that if you and your spouse use this verse to combat any strains in your marriage – you will experience the same.

1 Peter 4:8 KJV:

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.

We cannot express how thankful we are that Jesus gave His life so that we may find forgiveness. This beautiful truth is also a wonderful component of a marriage modeled after Christ. We have learned that by loving one another above all – that love (God himself) – covers our sin. And we don’t mean that He hides our sin, rather we realize His love and grace cover us and help us come to a point where we no longer desire to sin. And for this, we are forever grateful. This truth has changed the entire landscape of our 15+ years of marriage. This is a powerful truth, friends. Powerful indeed.

Jeremiah 29:11 KJV:

11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

We cannot count the times that this verse has given us hope when our circumstances have told us our marriage was hopeless. There is no end to the attacks against marriage in the modern world. From the pure old lies of the enemy coming at us from every angle to modern media screaming “a holy marriage is a farce” the enemy seemingly never tires of trying to get us in agreement with his plan for our demise. But when those lies and feelings of defeat rise up, we have learned to lean hard on Jeremiah 29:11. Not only does God promise us His peace, He also promises us an expected end. And those who have walked even just one day with our King understand that the expected end that Christ has in mind is nothing but pure blessing. Sure we’ll have trials along the way, but our victory is certain. Hallelujah!

Friends, we pray that you will find some solace in the verses above when you and your spouse feel any type of strain in your relationship. From memorizing and meditating on these verses to praying them and declaring them boldly in your marriage and family – we are certain that if you have the audacity to take God at His Word you will see your circumstances bow down to the King of Kings. Let God show you how He envisions your marriage rather than letting the strain of daily life dictate how your covenant will be played out. God loves you and He loves your marriage. Fight for it, dear ones, and you will find the most rewarding and fulfilling relationship within your marriage.

To His Glory,

Michael and Carlie Kercheval
Fulfilling Your Vows™

31 Days to a Better Marriage™

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  1. Thank you so much for posting this. I was feeling really low about some things in our marriage, but now it’s time to go to war for our marriage!

    1. Andrea, we are so glad these scriptures have inspired you to go to war for your marriage! We are praying for you, today!

  2. Yeah, forgiveness is big. We go through the day and will probably be offended by the other one at some point. I t could be intentionally or accidentally but forgiveness is the key to keeping things in control.

    Plus if we are in a forgiving state we can’t be angry. Forgiveness is about love.

  3. Thank you for this. It’s really hard to be patient and forgiving when you are the only one trying. But I know that it doesn’t matter what he does – I have to do what I know is right in the sight of the Lord.

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