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Switching Roles & Serving Rolls: A Holiday Challenge

“Mommy….look at her eat that turkey and mashed potatoes! She must be sooooo hungry!” my then four-year-old daughter Mackenzie whispered in my ear. Her eyes were riveted on a beautiful, chubby-fingered toddler. The child’s coiled chestnut hair nearly cascaded into her plate as she leaned forward and eagerly consumed her holiday meal, complete with all the trimmings.

On Thanksgiving Day that year, my husband and I opted to skip the normal extended-family holiday feast and instead signed up to serve at a soup kitchen in the heart of the inner city. We took our preschool daughter along. Since then, all three of our children have had several opportunities to don an apron and serve mothers and fathers; children and grandparents; precious people who normally don’t enjoy a well-rounded, home-cooked and piping-hot meal.

Switching Roles & Serving Rolls: A Holiday ChallengeWe often choose to serve a noontime meal at the soup kitchen while we skip breakfast ourselves that morning. As a result, our stomachs growl and our mouths water as we pass out the relishes, serve the rolls or scoop the sweet potato casserole. After serving we discuss how, in a very small sense, we are switching places with the people we are ministering to that day. We get a tiny glimpse of their hungry plight.

Many of them live at poverty level. Some are homeless. For them, the noontime meal at the soup kitchen is the only hot nourishment they receive each day. They are accustomed to going hungry while watching well-fed others around them.

Our family has experienced our own financial struggle, to a much lesser degree. My husband was laid off one Christmas Eve and spent over 9 months waiting to get called back to work. During this budget-tightening time, our children learned to go without; to see others acquire what we could not afford. To make ends meet, we ate more simply at home, and cut out restaurant trips. We bought only the clothing necessities on sale at deep discounts or at a resale shop. We learned what it was like to live at an economic level that was less than what we were used to.

And God was faithful. Many dear friends helped to lighten our load by giving us food, gift cards, and gas vouchers. They helped to smooth the rough bumps in our financial load.

So often it is easy to talk the talk, yet utterly fail to walk the walk.

What good is it to say, “I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,” but do nothing about another’s physical needs?

What is the point of declaring, “God bless so-and-so” in our prayers, yet never lifting a finger to bless “so-and-so” ourselves?

Let’s vow together to put feet to our prayers; to love on people in tangible ways. Let’s commit to step out of our comfort zones and help others enjoy the necessities and pleasures we often take for granted. Even during our own financial difficulties, we can volunteer our time or offer someone a needed hug.

Perhaps you can grab the kids and trek off to purchase some department store gift cards to drop off anonymously to a financially strapped family. Or a gift certificate to a grocery store for a single mom to help out during the holiday season. Or even sign up to work a shift at the local homeless shelter or soup kitchen.

This holiday season, let’s try switching roles and serving rolls.

I’m convinced if we do, we’ll experience the immense privilege of being Jesus to a hurting soul.

Blessings,

Karen Ehman

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About Karen Ehman

Karen Ehman is a New York Times bestselling author, Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker, and writer for Encouragement for Today an online devotional that reaches over 4 million women daily. She has authored 11 books including KEEP IT SHUT: What to Say, How to Say It and When to Say Nothing at All. Her newest book and DVD Bible study, Listen, Love, Repeat: Other-Centered Living in a Self-Centered World, is full of ideas for scattering kindness to family, friends, strangers, and the "necessary people" who help you get life done each week. Karen has been a guest on national media outlets including The 700 Club, FamilyLife with Dennis Rainey, Moody Midday Connection, and Focus on the Family. She is also a contributor to Foxnews.com, Crosswalk.com, Redbookmag.com, and LifeBeautiful.com. She has been married for over a quarter-century to her college sweetheart Todd and is the mom of three children ranging from teen to adult. She resides in central Michigan where she enjoys cheering for the Detroit Tigers and processing life with the many people who gather around her kitchen island. You can connect with her at www.karenehman.com where she helps women to live their priorities and love their lives.

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