Family life has taken on a whole new dimension lately, thanks to a pandemic that’s keeping most of us in close quarters. If you lacked quality family time before, you might be experiencing an uncomfortable abundance of it these past few weeks. So with moms and dads working from home, surrounded by small co-workers who demand peanut butter sandwiches and assistance with virtual math, how in the world is a married couple supposed to find a moment’s rest—together?
We plan it. Plain and simple.
It can be easy to let our marriages slide into survival mode during this unprecedented season. Instead, let’s give them permission to thrive. The key is to communicate with your spouse intentionally. Just carve out 15 minutes a day, every day, to look each other in the eyes and share a meaningful conversation. You’ll be amazed at how much this seemingly small habit can bring a couple closer—and I’m not talking about physical proximity. Heaven knows we have enough of that right now.
Here are some great conversation starters for making the most of your 15 minutes.
- What historical event thus far in our lifetimes has made the biggest impact on you personally? Why?
- When you close your eyes at night, what recurring thoughts pop into your head?
- Tell me something you worry about.
- What is one dream you still want to achieve? How can I help support you toward it?
- How did you see God working today?
- Have you ever walked through a season when you felt God was silent? How did you handle it? How did God show up?
- How do you define success? Do you believe you are successful in the ways that matter most? Why or why not?
- Tell me one quality you most admire in each of our kids. In what ways can we be intentional about knowing them better?
- If you could gain one new skill, what would it be and why?
- What do you miss most about being isolated from community? What aspects do you find beneficial or enjoyable?
- Tell me five things you’re grateful for today.
- What do you most need prayer for right now?
Whatever you choose to talk about, make sure you’re giving each other plenty of grace and encouragement. And remember to invite God into your private conversations, because “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12b).