Helping Your Teen Prepare For Prom

It’s that time of year. Students everywhere are making plans for the big night: prom. A fun night to get dressed up and go dancing can make memories to last a lifetime. The same night can quickly go south if your son or daughter isn’t truly prepared for prom night. As you help them get ready for the biggest dance of their lives, make sure to address these topics as well:

Modest is Hottest
Agreeing on a budget is important for this night. Agreeing on appropriate attire is too! Remind your daughter that her body was never intended to be something on display. As you help her choose a dress, encourage her to make the right choice by having her honestly examine how she looks. Also, take the time to talk to your son about his attire. Most likely he will be fine because he is wearing a suit, but be sure there isn’t any unconventional attire planning. Also, spend time talking with him about respecting girls by guarding his eyes no matter what their attire is.

Talk About Alcohol
Over one-third of all alcohol-related traffic deaths among Gen Zs happens during the final month of school (prom & graduation season). Sadly, 87% of teens say they are more likely to drive after drinking rather than call Uber, mom and dad, or a friend. Additionally, over 90% of students say they believe their friends will drink alcohol on prom night. Of those who drink on prom night, 25% report getting alcohol from parents! Yes, parents! Crazy, right? The good news is that 80% of students whose parents clearly articulate their expectations for no alcohol on prom night are less likely to drink. So make it clear that you expect your teen to say “no” to alcohol. Just because your son or daughter makes a promise doesn’t mean they will stick to it. But, clearly articulating your expectations is important and can be a reminder to them in that moment.

Agree on the Curfew
Discuss the evening’s schedule and clearly map-out the night with your teen. Know who they are going with, who is driving, and what the post-dance plans will be. Agree on a curfew and stick to it. If a younger teen is going to prom, consider “call-in” times to keep in touch.

Talk About Sex
Students often feel pressure to bring sex into the mix on this night. Have the talk often in the days and weeks leading up to prom. Clearly articulate your expectations and God’s desire that your teen remains pure. Remind them that it only takes one choice to change the rest of their lives. If you have a son, remind him that he has a huge responsibility to be a man of integrity and character. He is taking someone’s future wife to the dance. If you have a daughter remind her that no guy is worth a compromise, no matter how much money he spends on dinner and a tux. Encourage your son or your daughter to treat their prom date like they would want someone to treat their future spouse.

Take Pictures…Lots of Pictures
My daughter’s friends, dates, and their parents all come to our house before leaving for prom and take pictures. It’s so fun to see so many people in our yard snapping away! Create a memory in your front yard and have fun. Prepare snacks for the parents and invite them to hang-out after the students leave.

Finally, Let your teen know that you hope they have a great night. Pray for your teen before they leave the house. Help use this big-event moment in their lives to build lasting memories for you and for them!

Blessings,

Jeffrey Dean