Dads and Moms: You Aren’t Defined by a Number

I got on the scale this week and didn’t like the number screaming at me in red. Flashbacks to all the peanut butter buckeyes and sugar cookies I’d eaten in the month of December and other delicious treats haunted me. I couldn’t help those yummy plates arriving straight to my door! I’d worked so hard months before then and loved the number I was at. But now? I kind of detest it.

But you know what? The truth is, I’m not defined by that number. Not one bit. Even when I think I am.

Do you live like you are loved? Our children need us to walk in our identity as beloved by God, not in any worldly definition. So come, remember whose you are so you can share that same love with your kids.I’m not defined by how many followers, likes, loves, friends, Fitbit stats, the numbers in my bank account, the times I’ve messed up as a mom and wife, the number of times a project has been rejected, or the one million numbers someone else has either.

It’s all so futile. Because you and I—our security and self-worth have nothing to do with a number.

They have everything to do with a cross.

The cross is where we go to find our acceptance, identity, and approval. The cross is where we turn for the forgiveness and healing we desperately need. The cross reminds us of our great, precious worth and the sacrifice it cost Jesus to go there.

The cross turns our gaze upward not inward.

While it’s so tempting to chase after approval, applaud, and value from others and even within our own expectations of what number we should be, we’ll never be fully satisfied in these numbers—even if we achieve them in all our crazy striving. Sure, we can be excited, want to tell others, and even help others get to where we’re at. But those numbers can’t fulfill us in and of themselves.

Why? Because our value cannot be attached to physical, temporal things in this world. It must be found in a person—the person—of Christ. The one who is eternal. The one who gives infinite joy and satisfaction. The one who our souls are longing for above all else. The one who loves you more than anyone you know. The one who we’ll meet one day face-to-face in eternity.

You can trust in him to find the value you’ve been longing for in this life and more.

This is who he says you are:

  • a child of God – John 1:12
  • a friend of Jesus – John 15:15
  • crucified with Christ & no longer a slave to sin – Romans 6:6
  • a temple of the Holy Spirit – 1 Cor 6:19
  • redeemed and forgiven – Ephesians 1:7
  • a new creation – 2 Corinthians 5:17
  • the one who supplies all my needs – Philippians 4:19
  • set free – Galatians 5:1
  • chosen – Ephesians 1:4
  • brought near to God by the blood of Christ – Ephesians 2:13
  • God’s workmanship – Ephesians 2:10
  • complete in Christ – Colossians 2:10
  • raised up with Christ – Colossians 3:1
  • loved – 1 Thessalonians 1:4

Dads and Moms, you’re not defined by a number. Now, go, and live like you are loved. Because that’s exactly what you are.


Samantha Krieger

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