Our family was blessed to go on a short 4-day vacation last month when our youngest son asked us this question: Mommy? Daddy? Why did you guys say “I do” on your wedding video? Such innocent curiosity led to a rather profound question that we wanted to be sure to have a thoughtful response for. While we had our solid reasons for getting married, we decided to share our top 3.
That night in that tiny hotel room we shared the three main reasons that we decided to say “I do” to one another on our wedding day. We believe that God ordained that conversation so that more seeds could be planted in each one of our children’s hearts so that He can bless them with a solid biblical marriage when they are adults.
3 Reasons to Say “I Do”
Because God put you together.
While this may seem like an easy or obvious answer, we have watched many people we know over the last couple of decades get married and divorced. It is such a heartbreaking thing to watch the enemy destroy so many marriage covenants. We want to encourage you to be sure that the Lord is leading you to be married before you commit to a life of marriage covenant together. We can honestly say that the Lord put us together and confirmed it throughout the process. We are so thankful to God that He has shown us how to have an amazing marriage covenant simply because it is His will.
Because you are committed to keeping God first in your lives.
For Christians, this is the single most important aspect of married life. Without the commitment of keeping God first your marriage is doomed to fail. By keeping God first in your lives you are allowing Him to work in your heart and fix issues in your own life that will help keep them out of your married life. It’s the wisdom and strength of God that gives us the ability to have a thriving and lasting marriage. And besides, we can’t love our spouse well without allowing God to love us first. Only God’s love can teach us how to fulfill the needs of our spouse.
Because you are willing to do whatever it takes to ensure your marriage survives.
This is a huge one. When we were getting pre-marital counseling from our pastor, one thing he said to us was this: I know that your marriage will survive simply because both of you are committed that you will never give up. Yes! Even though we didn’t really understand how far this would take us — 15 years later we have a much better idea. We are committed to do what ever it takes to protect our marriage covenant and as a result have been able to be victorious when the enemy has attacked our covenant. One sure-fire way this has succeeded is by keeping the lines of communication open at all times making sure the enemy doesn’t have a foothold.
We really believe that if you and your spouse (or spouse-to-be) are already on track with the three reasons we have shared above that you are on your way to an amazing, Christ-filled marriage. While marriage is not easy, the hard work hardly compares to the benefits of a blessed marriage covenant! Consider this scripture when thinking of your marriage covenant:
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. (Romans 8:18 NIV)
We are praying for you!
Michael & Carlie Kercheval @ Fulfilling Your Vows